There is nothing in this world that does not have its decisive moment. - Henri Cartier-Bresson.
This quote is my absolute favorite and I have put a copy of it on my computer monitor at work so I can be reminded daily. I have had a few decisive moments in my short 37 years and thought I would share them.
My most dramatic life-changing decisive moment was probably the precise second I turned my head to see who was walking by my office at work and it happened to be Karl. Sounds simple, eh? Let's put it this way - my life until that second had been simple. Before then I had only been going through the motions. I had loved other people before, but not like this one. And this love was, is complicated for a number of reasons. We just let it be and let it take us where it wants to go.
Second most important decisive moment was when I was interviewing for jobs as I finished up graduate school and happened to call an old coworker just in case she could help in my job search. That led to a series of interviews that eventually brought me here to California. I left my family, old friends, beloved Chapel Hill and everything I knew about the world.
Third place decisive moment came on some warm, humid evening in the summer of 1991. I was having an excruciatingly painful discussion with my then-husband in the car on the way home. We were having a fight. I was shocked at myself; I wanted a divorce. I was 24. It was an epiphany.
There are several other decisive moments that deserve honorable mention. In no particular order, they include the afternoon my coworker taught me how to knit; the split second that my dog ran into the street while I was rollerblading with her (I fell to the ground and broke my front teeth); the day in grade school that I wrote my first essay and realized I liked to write stuff; the decision to take up photography because I was bored being just a housewife and needed a hobby; the realization that time had not stood still for me in North Carolina when I went home for a family visit (this one made me decide to move on with my life on the west coast and buy a house); the decision to let a poor stray cat into the house one stormy night during a hurricane - my first cat, ever. And the ultimate decisive moment which my parents made for *me* was when they put me on a plane from the Philippines to the United States when I was a tiny 3 year old. I love my parents for that. Sometimes I wonder how different my life would be if they had not made that decision.
I was reading an article in this month's Real Simple about "getting happy". One of the ways to teach yourself how to think happily is to meditate about what you are grateful for. And then this led me to think about which decisions I've made that have led to some of the most enriching, gratifying and enlightening aspects of my life.
Would you be willing to share some of your decisive moments?
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